Are you a Tired Mom? There is HOPE!
Are you a Tired Mom and think life is over? Hang on, there is hope!
Let me get a few things out of the way.
First, I am not a mom and never could be. Moms are part amazing, part superhero and part AWESOME! I love my mom and my children’s mom is the woman of my dreams.
Second, I know moms have tons of things drawing on their energy levels.
With those 2 caveats I write this post.
Tired moms are everywhere. In her article To The Tired Mom, Rachel M. Martin writes “sometimes being a mom means simply being tired.” I agree and I disagree.
Rachel at AMotherFarFromHome.com claims in her article “Why moms are so tired” that it is because moms are “hyper-vigilant.” Having watched my wife with our 6 kids- yes, you read that correctly- she definitely goes into a heightened awareness mode when she is with the kids and especially when she is with them away from our home.
Moms sometimes kids, work, husbands, family, friends, life and more just pull at you. These things can and will make you tired for sure. They can drive some crazy and lead others to celibacy.
Remember the headline “There is HOPE!”
That hope is what I want to write about today.
I work in the world of healthcare and in particularly focus a lot on sleep.
I am writing this article to tired moms everywhere so they can know that although there are many things in their lives that can make them tired there are a few things that could be in their lives that shouldn’t be. Those few things could very well be making them go to bed exhausted (and wake up exhausted.)
Anna Luther in her blog mylifeandkids.com says the “crappy” part about not getting sleep is it “makes us feel fat,…cranky,…emotional.”
Lack of energy is something you may think is because of those things pulling at you, but what if it was because of something many of the mommy blogs don’t discuss? What if feeling tired could be not only stopped, but reversed for some moms?
Nearly every mom has days where they get tired, but here is the question.
Are you tired everyday day in and day out?
Excessive daytime sleepiness or EDS– Excessive daytime sleepiness (EDS) is characterized by persistent sleepiness and often a general lack of energy, even during the day after apparently adequate or even prolonged nighttime sleep. EDS can be considered as a broad condition encompassing several sleep disorders where increased sleep is a symptom, or as a symptom of another underlying disorder like narcolepsy, sleep apnea or a circadian rhythm disorder.
Does this sound like you?
My wife falls into many of the things described above.
This daddy has his own theory.
Wait for it…
My theory is that some of you tired moms may have sleeping disorders. I know, you can’t snore because every man knows that women don’t snore. But lets get hypothetical. What if a mom does snore? Does that mean she could hypothetically have other sleep issues like #sleepapnea? What if you had sleep apnea and that was the cause or the root of all those tired days? Then that means there is light at the end of what you thought might be an endless tunnel.
What if some moms have sleep apnea? How could that really effect them in their tiredness after all?
Before you go through anymore days that seem full of fog even though the sun is out fully shining or filled with crabbiness and anger for no real apparent reason may I suggest a few things? (These may or may not help if you have sleep apnea.)
1. Get to bed at a decent hour-
I know, most moms can’t get to sleep until certain things are done. But whenever absolutely possible get to bed early, even if there is just one more Netflix episode you need to watch to find out what happens. Moms, you need at a minimum 7-9 hours of sleep.
2. Bed is for sleeping and sex-
Dr. Avelino Verceles says, “Reserve your bed for sleep and sex.” Keep phones, tablets, and all other electronics away from bed so you aren’t tempted to let them take you from the sleep you need.
3. Be consistent with the time you wake up-
Get into a rhythm of waking up at the same time. I know, with kids this may or may not be possible, but where possible set a wake time you will wake up each day every day and do it! This means weekends, too! My wife and I both love to take our Saturdays (Sundays we have church) and sleep in.
4. Have same meal times daily-
With soccer, plays, dance, horseback riding lessons, basketball, gymnastics and a myriad of other things moms have to look out for this may just be the biggest impossible on the list, but where possible I suggest make that dinner time daily at 00:00 or breakfast every morning at 6:15 or whatever. But do your best to make it consistent.
Yah right, says my wife. How do you exercise with 6 kids and one of them is a new born? Maybe not possible, but where possible take 30 mins a day and get into a sweat (not chasing children.) Good exercise can be a HUGE sleep game changer and I mean for the better.
Now for those of you who can’t do any of these things-
Some of you mothers are reading this article and saying this “Rob guy is full of it.” I am offering suggestions. There will be some moms who really can’t do any of these things. For you I write this last bit.
Get your sleep tested-
I know, we are talking about time and you mothers don’t have much the way it is or else you would be doing all of the things I outlined above. So when I say get a Sleep Test you think no way. But I am suggesting to get a Home Sleep Study.
This is where you can sleep in your own bed and just wear a device and it will record what sleep you do get and then with a doctor’s interpretation you can know if your day-time sleepiness is more than all the things you can read about in many other mommy blogs. You can know if it might just be your sleep itself.
How in the world?
If you are wondering how in the world you could possibly get a Sleep Test or even a Home Sleep Test I have answers. Ask your dentist! He/She might just have one for you. If you can’t afford to take one (usual cost from $250-$500) get in touch with me and I can hook you up.
If the only thing you got from this article is there might be something else…
Then I feel like I accomplished why I was writing this. I just wanted to open your eyes to show you mothers of the world that there might be something more that is causing you to be so darn tired during the day.
Hope this helps!
P.S. If you want a Home Sleep Test and want me to hook you up then reach out to me at firstname.lastname@example.org or hit me on twitter @robblov or google.com/+RobBreedlove or even on linkedin.com/in/RobBreedlove.